Ok, you ask what is attunement??
Attunement means you are listening, feeling and aware of your partner’s experiences. You have a sense of whether he or she is happy, sad, fearful, frustrated etc. Being attuned means you ask about how he or she is feeling. Finding out what is happening in their lives from a non-defensive, judging place. You make it safe for your partner to talk about their deeper fears, hurts, and experiences. Bridging the space between one another by asking about your partner is the best way to connect and be available emotionally.
Being available emotionally doesn’t mean you need to solve his or her problems. You just need to be there and listen empathically. By doing this, you show that you care, love and have concern for your partner. That is attunement!