Caught in the Blend!

February 11th, 2016

images-1Blending Families: Merging Households with Kids 8-18


My own blended family journey began when my mother, Fredi married Howard Stevenson 25 years ago. My mom brought 4 daughters ages 32-22 years old to the marriage while Howard brought 3 sons ages 22-16. The typical comment we hear is still “It sounds like the Brady Bunch!”


Trevor Guest Hosts on What Women Want!

November 16th, 2015

Trevor recently guest hosted on the popular radio show What Women Want, speaking on topics that women want to hear!

Click here to download directly and here to learn more about What Women Want.

What Women Want encourages women OF ALL AGES to come and listen to inspiring, FUN and educational talk radio with celebrities and internationally recognized guests and experts. We are on the air live every Wednesday evening.

Sex in the Suburbs

June 19th, 2015

Sari Cooper and Trevor Crow discuss low desire for women in their 40’s and 50’s, sex in a long term relationship. How to keep it hot. How to feel good about yourself if you are in a new relationship.

Join Us May 19th for Love and Dating in Fairfield County

May 10th, 2015

A fresh, informative and sometimes hilarious take on modern romance for everyone

Hosted by Trevor Crow and Jill Fitzburgh

Special guest: Sari Cooper, Certified Sex Therapist & Relationship

Expert seen on CBS This Morning and The Dr. Oz Show

And Dr. Ellen Mahony

Aging Matters:  The Mystery of Timeless Beauty


Effective local matchmakers… Great headshot and profile advice… Style updates for

men and women… How to rev up your long term relationship

 Tuesday, May  19th

The Delamar Hotel Southport

275 Old Post Road, Southport, CT

5:30-8:30 pm

(Show begins promptly at 6:15 pm)

Fabulous Door Prizes… Light Fare… Cash Bar… Friends… Networking…

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A portion of the proceeds will benefit the CT Challenge,

empowering cancer survivors.


Blended Families

March 25th, 2015

Learn the key things to happily Blending Families, connecting and finding secure emotional bonds in the new family system.

Sex and Attachment

March 25th, 2015

Thoughts on closeness, emotional bonding and sex. Does connection extinguish great sex? Take a look!

Pursuers and Withdrawers

March 25th, 2015

Rather than repeat the same fight again and again, identify what your attachment style is. Do you fight for connection? Do you get angry, blame or criticize your partner? If so you pursue for connection. Your behaviors may cause your partner to withdraw. If you are a withdrawer, you tend to quiet down, worry that if you say one more thing, you will only make your partner more angry. When you know your style, you can make change.


March 15th, 2015


Yes we all know the story: evil step mom does her best to foil the success of her beautiful stepdaughter, pushing her own daughters ahead. We all know the story and yes, there is another star-studded movie version in theatres this weekend.

Then the fairy godmother swoops in, rescues the beautiful Cinderella and saves the day with her kindness and excellentvstyling capabilities.

As a stepmom and occasional fairy godmother, in all honesty the real step mom, (there are lots of us out there), are both Fairy Godmother and Evil Stepmother combined. We are ying and yang. We like every person have both dark and light aspects of our emotions.

If each of us stepmoms is truly honest with ourselves, there are moments when we feel jealousy, pettiness and a tinge of anger towards our step kids. Our stepkids smell differently than our own do, there are times when we can’t and should not discipline them. And yes, moments when our partner pays more attention, or supports the stepchild over, and that burns! And yes, we would like to and hopefully don’t act out on our anger and jealousy.

The best action we can take is to speak of our jealousy and anger to our partner, own it and have compassion for our feelings. When have the courage to speak our truth, and our partner understands and helps us through our shame and hurt, we can heal and do better next time.

And, like me, most of you stepmoms out there have had your fairy godmother moments too. You have dropped everything and helped your stepdaughter dress for prom. You have moved mountains to help her get what she needed for her school work, her camp, her summer job, her physical wellbeing.

Yes, we stepmoms are curious, complex creatures with petty, jealous and deep love for our stepchildren. In the end the loving stepfamily can support, grow and develop secure, safe and caring kids. It takes a team, a compassionate and secure partnership.